Building Healthy Relationships:
Hello, my name is Anita Sandoval, I am a Licensed
Professional Counselor from the Rio Grande Valley.
My job is to help people come up
with techniques, skills, strategies, to implement and move forward to a
healthier environment.
Such tools given within counseling
will help the person, if implemented effectively will help them become
resilient through adversity and find their own meaning of happiness.
It is up to the person to be
responsible and do what is necessary to create their own happiness which
includes healthy relationships and environment, and I am ready to help them do
so.
Today’s Topic
Death
As a person
who also struggles with the reality of death and the unknown of what happens
after we die, I find it important to have a certain appreciation of gratitude
with life every morning, even if it is for a minute, when I wake up.
Last week I
had a dream, the day before school started for my children, that I had days to
live and I had to say my good-byes to my family. I remember thinking of my
little girls, knowing that they would grow up without me and then realizing on
how I grew up without my father due to a tragic car accident a day before my 2nd
birthday. I remember waking up with feelings of such appreciation and gratitude
that everything was really just a nightmare attributed to my tiredness of
getting everything ready for the kids school.
A week later I read on the social media that a friend of a friend had
died of cancer leaving two small daughters around the same age as my little
girls.
Life comes
with many transitions for people, and how they cope through such adversities
will help them find their true meaning of happiness. The reason why I chose
this topic is because even though, people may find it difficult to discuss, the
one guarantee in life is that at one point in time we will be in a situation
where there will be an adversity of death. Through different skills, can a
person be able to move forward in life and yes, even through such hardships can
still build healthy relationships and find their happiness.
(Grief) (Bereavement)
This is the stage where people mourn a loss of someone or
something.
Many people cope differently when it comes to bereavement.
The main stages of Bereavement are:
Denial-This is where people just don't want to accept what has just happened or pretend nothing happened.
Anger- Emotions can be exhibited in many forms internal or external emotions of anger is still normal as long as it is done effectively.
Bargaining- People think that if they do something everything can get better or go away and not experience a loss.
Depression: Sadness and depression are different and if you would like to know whether you are depressed or sad. The following link can help you
Depression quiz:
http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/depquiz.htm
Acceptance: People start learning on how to cope with the new adjustment of loss in life.
An article on more information can be found on the website
below:
http://psychcentral.com/lib/the-5-stages-of-loss-and-grief/
People can go through the stage in different order at any
time and there really is no period of how long a person can be within their
grieving process.
Taking a look at the behaviors on how a person whether yourself or a loved one is doing can help on whether their manner of coping through such loss is effective.
Effective coping skills and problem solving skills is needed
within this time and there is not a manner of coping effectively counseling is
required to gain such skills.
Some effective coping mechanisms can be to talk to someone
you love and express your emotions over the matter.
Having your positive support system near you for when you
need them is very crucial to the process of grief.
The
definition of gratitude is:
the
quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return
kindness.
The
main goal of life in order to become resilient and happy is to look at the
things positively.
Finding
things of gratitude and appreciation can help a person cope through tough times
especially those involving death.
Studies
have shown that positive emotions have helped people overcome bereavement
process more effectively. More information can be read through the article
below.
Remember
that you are a product of your environment. Finding that positive support
system will help you build through that grieving process.It has been proven
time and time again that where you are and who you associate with will have
great influence towards to who you will become and are.
Thank
you for joining me and next time I will discuss other key matters such as
parenting, substance abuse, grief, ADD, Depression and many more that can help
with the wellness dimensions.
Also,
it would be great to hear from you! I know with the fast track of working,
kids, and society it is difficult to attend counseling and maybe you just have
a question or a thought and want to know if you are needing counseling or just
some strategies to help you move forward for now. So if you have any questions on any topic you
would like to discuss or comment on a problem you are having please feel free
to
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Website:
www.positiveawakeningscenter.com
Email: anita@pacc-tx.com
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