Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Building Healthy Relationships- Healthy Vs. Unhealthy Relationships and its Effects


Hi, my name is Anita Sandoval MA,LPC. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor.  

My job is to help people come up with techniques, skills, strategies, to implement and move forward to a healthier environment. It is up to you to be responsible and do what is necessary to create your own healthy environment, and I am ready to help you do so.

What is a healthy and unhealthy.
The Eight Dimensions of Wellness are:
  1. Emotional—Coping effectively with life and creating satisfying relationships
  2. Environmental—Good health by occupying pleasant, stimulating environments that support well-being
  3. Financial—Satisfaction with current and future financial situations
  4. Intellectual—Recognizing creative abilities and finding ways to expand knowledge and skills
  5. Occupational—Personal satisfaction and enrichment from one’s work
  6. Physical—Recognizing the need for physical activity, healthy foods, and sleep
  7. Social—Developing a sense of connection, belonging, and a well-developed support system
  8. Spiritual—Expanding a sense of purpose and meaning in life

These are basically the different aspects within your life that if interfered with an issue can cause unhappiness or unease. With counseling a person can objectively look and analyze where the issue lies and come up with ways to where you can be able to become whole and healthy again.

Today we will be discussing one of the major aspects that define all the dimensions of the wellness. It is relationships, in order to be able to function in society in any of the dimensions mentioned before a person needs to have a healthy relationship within one self and others. 

By definition: relationship means, the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected.

Today in this world like the saying goes, “Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same.”
Flavia Weedn

Basically, whenever you connect with a person or concept or anything for that matter you are leaving an impression. What is the impression you want to leave to people, what is it that you stand for and want for people see. This is where it comes down to one thing: Behaviors. 

Behaviors is basically what someone does. Good or bad behavior has always been subjective to interpretation. Therefore, I will define what healthy and unhealthy relationships are through behaviors and through what are subjectively interpreted through today’s society’s point of view.

Healthy Relationships encompass these several factors:
Non-threatening behaviors, respect, honesty and accountability, trust and support, responsible parenting, shared responsibility, economic partnership, negotiation and fairness. All of which the goal of the relationship is for equality.

Unhealthy Relationships, sometimes referred as domestic violence, encompass these factors: Intimidation, coercion and threats, emotional abuse, isolation, male privilege, economic abuse, using children, minimizing, denying, and blaming, and physical abuse, all of which serves the purpose in a relationship for power and control.

Such type of relationships can have an affect on a person such as:

Healthy relationship is affected by:  Fewer mental health problems, reduced pain, reduced stress, longer life, happiness.

Unhealthy relationships can be affected by: Increased risk of coronary heart disease, poor mental health, negative effects on overall health, heaping stress upon stress, and slower disease recovery.

It is up to you to decide which type of relationship you want in your life and the effects from it by seeing the behaviors in front of you that you and the people around you exhibit. If you are in an unhealthy relationship and are ready to move forward into a healthier one there are some strategies that you can begin implementing.

Some strategies to begin changing your environment and begin building healthy relationships is by Developing:

Effective Communication skills and Problem solving skills.

 Remember that you are a product of your environment. It has been proven time and time again that where you are and who you associate with will have great influence towards to who you will become and are.

Next time I will discuss other key matters such as parenting, substance abuse, grief, ADD, Depression and many more that can help with the wellness dimensions. Also, it would be great to hear from you!

If you have any comments, questions or would like for me to discuss a certain issue, I will be more than happy to discuss it in my next blog. You can contact me at:

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1 comment:

  1. Relationship is a two way Zone. If it become one way, it started becoming unhealthy. Communication is the key part of relationship. Major factor in relationship is the adjustment between the individuals, the more each one of them do, more healthy the relationship will be. Particularly domestic violence is a chain reaction of miscommunication and non adjustment at different levels of each person. It may not be between two persons in relationship, but may have started some where else in one person and leading to domestic violence, between two person in relationship. It is the prime duty of counselor to find out where the miscommunication/adjustment fails and at what level I feel the problem can be fixed by the two persons by overcoming miscommunication/adjustment.